Vonetta Massey

I am guilty of being ignorant, underestimating the impact I had on someone’s life. Being convicted of impulses that were once normal (only thinking of myself) I could no longer be careless. My ways are no longer impulsive because I HAVE to think of how my words and actions will effect the people I care about the most, even the ones I don’t know yet. I never did it for myself. This is what God requires of me: Never to mismanage someone’s heart. I pray that people come out of the ignorance that it’s all about you and what you want but it’s how we manage our connection with other people.

Sometimes the disappointments we have now are to prevent much greater disappointments in the future. So in every circumstance whether in emotional/physical/spiritual pain or in an overwhelming abundance of joy, praise Him. Remember He only wants to prosper you. He has your best interest at heart even when He allows the turmoil. Take it one day at a time and remember He is with you. I’ve been having this image of God being one with me, wherever I go He goes, picking my feet up off the ground when I feel I can barely stand. If I’m honest I’d tell you it’s not always easy seeing His light in a room full of darkness. In some situations it’s not always easy to know that he’ll take care of you. I was talking to a friend who pointed out that every time they would be in an unwanted predicament that she felt was too hard to get herself out of, the first person she called on was God. Well maybe that’s God’s way of letting us know He’s there. He will never leave or forsake us. He wants us to call on Him and to rely on Him. So he allows the turmoil in our lives just so He can be our hero and save us. Let Him save you

I went to a bar with a friend of mine in Hollywood a week ago. It was the first time I had been out in a while. I was approached by a caucasian male, he asked me what did I think about his friend hitting on a girl who was in the bathroom line. From that point we talked, I met his friends and we hung out most of the night.

I rarely have an experience like that with guys. When I first meet a guy the conversation usually starts out like this,

him: Hey girl! You got a man?

me: yes

him: well, we can be friends

I have a problem with that and am immediately disinterested. 

1) Why would you ask me if I have a man if you are going to continue to pursue me despite the answer. #disrespectful

2) Start out with something original. You will look more interesting and personable.

3) How about friendship? Why not start a conversation to get to know someone before trying to become their man?

It has happened to me and most (if not all) of my female friends. So next time you see an attractive female confidently approach her and find something interesting to talk about. 

What does happiness mean for you? From the time I was graduating high school I have struggled with this question, “what will make me happy in life?” 

I have learned since then that happiness goes beyond money and material things. Just think of all the people who have all the money the could ever need or want. Somehow it’s not enough. 

In deprivation of the things I have always been familiar with I have found what truly makes me happy. 

I ask that each of you look, search deep and find out what makes you happy.